Managing emotions


‭‭James‬ ‭1:19‭-‬20‬ ‭NIV‬‬
 My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. 

 Emotions are a part of every human being, it is an undeniable part of our anatomy.

They sometimes play a major role in the decisions we make from time to time and if not managed properly, we can tend to make mistakes in the spur of these moments.

As Christians, living with emotions that runs wild and uncontrolled is very dangerous for us because, decisions taken with an uncontrolled emotion is usually a terrible one that hunts us later in life. The bible speaking in the book of

 Proverb 25 vs 28 says “A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls”

This is a powerful verse because it likens a man to a city that can be accessed without any form of resistance or protection. In the medieval times, mighty nations took pride in the walls surrounding their city because it was their form of protection just like it was in the city of Jericho, they took pride in the mighty walls surrounding their city because nobody could access the city or take advantage of them unless going through the walls. This bible verse is trying to tell us that unmanaged emotions leaves us vulnerable to the attack of the enemy.

As Christians, our primary source for making choices should be the Word of God because the Word is life, a person who has grown enough to make his or her choices with Gods’ word as a reference point irrespective of how they feel is a secured person because the devil will not have an easy access to that persons’ life, the bible tells us “TO GIVE NO ROOM TO THE DEVIL”. For every situation we face in life, the counsel of God has been released with his words so it doesn’t matter how angry, disappointed, in-love, hurt, excited or even remorseful you feel, your duty as a Christian is to search the word of God for the counsel concerning that situation. 

I can still recall an incident that happened between my sister and I,  my older sister had just gotten back from a very long journey and was stranded on the road, she needed help with her bags so she reached out to me to come help her, at the time I was not idle or less busy, as a matter of fact, I had just gotten back from work and I had started washing a ton of clothes, so when her call came in, I told her that I was busy and she could try asking the bus driver whose bus she was in to drop her at the front of our gate so it would be easier for me to come help her carry the bags up but if it would not be possible she should reach out to me so I can come to where she was to help her with the bags, almost 5 minutes passed and I didn’t hear anything from her so I left the clothes I was washing and quickly dressed up to go and help her.

I met her on the road and immediately she saw me, she erupted in rage saying how insensitive I was and how I couldn’t offer her my help when she needed it, I tried explaining to her that I was actually occupied but she was too angry to even listen, I then attempted to help her with her bags but she said she wouldn’t be needing my help, so she kept on struggling, tugging and pulling the bags all the way home by herself.

Now this is how some of us react to different situation at different points in time, hence we end up struggling, pulling and fighting for the rest of our lives because you said or did something in a fit of rage, 10 years down the line, people that would have been key players in assisting you achieve a goal in life would have all gone because you said words that cannot be taken back, or you took actions that can never be undone, the tricky part is that just like my sister, help might still be available but we refuse to let go of hurt or anger hence we punish ourselves just to prove a point, no wonder the bible said in the books ECCLESIASTES 7: 9 “ANGER LIES IN THE BOSSOM OF FOOLS”.

Humans are an unavoidable part of our existence hence, there is a need to know how to maintain your integrity of character irrespective of how people act, as Christians we are to portray the kind of relationships and interaction that brings glory to God irrespective of  the conditions being ideal or not.

May god grant us the grace to have more control over our emotions in Jesus name






Comments

  1. Josiah AdemolaFebruary 21, 2024 at 11:27 PM

    Powerful writeup 👍

    Uncontrolled emotions can truly lead to poor decisions that can negatively impact our lives.
    As Christians, it's important to manage our emotions according to biblical principles.
    One example of this is found in Proverbs 19:11, which says "A person's wisdom yields patience; it is to one's glory to overlook an offense."
    Another example is found in Ephesians 4:26, which says "In your anger do not sin."

    My prayer is that the grace for us to suppress our emotion and not let it affect our decision making God will grant us.

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